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Pick Up Lines

'No man will love you better...'

'Do you like to cuddle?'

Dating is THE WORST. People don't meet organically anymore, or not very frequently. I've been using online dating sites since 2008 and boy oh boy do I have stories. I've had some good dates, but more bad ones. I've learned its easy to feel like you connect with someone online but it's the real life chemistry and interaction that counts. I've learned that protecting yourself is invaluable, especially in an age when accessibility is the name of the game. I don't give out my phone number easily, nor do I let just anyone into my home. And most importantly, I don't let just anyone into my life.

Which makes it hard when you may want to let someone in. A good friend of mine has said to me her biggest worry about me post-breakup 2013 is that I will build all my walls back up. And it's hard not to do that. You open yourself up in a relationship and trust and become vulnerable, and so when that's all shattered, the immediate reaction is to make it so someone can't do that to you again.

But somehow I keep putting myself out there, just hoping that something, or rather someone, will be a reason to be vulnerable and let myself love and trust again. Until then, I'm going to remain guarded, cynical and laugh at the lame pickup lines that come across my email.

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